I was asking the church handyman if he could help me move a heavy piece of furniture. My friend overheard and said “You dont need his help you can do it yourself,””Im much older than you and i move all of my own furniture.”
So I went home and moved that very heavy peice of furniture myself. I ended up getting a Charley horse, I was in pain for weeks. I thought to myself was not in faith believing I could do this? Was I really that weak my friend was much older moving her furniture?
Then one day my friend invited me over for lunch. In her home every peice of furniture was wicker. Those peices were so light i could have moved several at the same time.
The moral of the story is we have to use discernment not feel condemned when we cant do what others are doing. They may be in error in their judgment with their comparison to your
2 Corinthians 10:12
For we dare not number ourselves, or compare ourselves, with some who commend themselves. For in measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, they are not wise.
I had a circumstance with another friend after this. We were carrying a very heavy mirror and it was close to dropping. I asked a man passing by if he wouldn’t mind helping us. He was a big guy picked it up with ease brought it right into the store. My friend said “wow you dont have any problem asking for help do you?” I told her my wicker furniture story. It’s not sin for us to ask for help when we need it. It’s pride keeping us from getting help when we need it. My friend was embarrassed I asked for help but she admitted we were close to dropping the mirror, it was a good thing we had that help. The enemy tries to cause us to be in pride do it yourself.
Proverbs 14:4 Where no oxen are, the crib is clean: but much increase is by the strength of the ox.
It may be clean without mess doing things on your own, but with others there’s strength. You can get more done and things you couldn’t have gotten done on your own.
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